growing up with everything
I was hanging out with some awesome people this past week and one of the conversations we got into was growing up with out a lot of money….
They were telling me of times when they were growing up that their parents wernt sure how and where food would come from for the family.
That thought is so foreign to me.
When i was growing up we always had everything we wanted….
We always got what we wanted, toys, food, video games, vacations….
We always got a TON of Christmas gifts….
We always went out to eat…..
We always traveled and had amazing vacations.
So i have no idea what it was like to grow up that way. Now is another story, but growing up we were spoiled.
I actually had my dads credit card until the day after i got married. He would let me know what i spent monthly and even at 21 i thought it was a little extravagant. but it was what i was used to.
I wanted a MacBook ….I got a MacBook
I wanted an iPod…..I got an iPod
I wanted to go out to eat 2/3 times a day…..I went to eat
I wanted to fly somewhere for the weekend….I flew there
It was all i knew. So why would i be any different.
But i wish that i would have had to experience some discipline in the money area. I never saw it from my parents because they always spent. They saved too, but we didnt see that….we just saw the spending.
And now as i am an adult and married and learning how to manage our finances i have a hard time switching in my mind that money doesnt run out….because i have since learned that it does. :\
Both of my parents on separate occasions have apologized to me for the disservice that was done by not showing us how to save, spend and budget.
And i wish i had known earlier. It would have saved me a lot of heartache and trouble through my life.
So i am curious, did you grow up getting everything you ever wanted or in want?
i got my first pair of brand name shoes when i was in high school—when my feet had stopped growing. that was the deal growing up in my family. everything that was bought was store-brand, even down to the bread we ate. so, i can't relate to how you grew up but what i am realizing now, is how much i spoiled myself when i first started working and making my own money. it was my money, so i spent it. and so that's also not good.
i am slowly remembering how to frugal, especially in this present economy. wish i had started saving earlier.
I'm (now) thankful for the "poor" upbringing I had when I was young… I do wish my parents would have started showing me how/when to save when I was a bit younger though!
i totally understand that!!
I just have one question. Do you think it is possible to "grow up with everything" and still experience some discipline in the money area?
i think it is.
And to answer your question. YES i think i did grow up getting everything I wanted… well except that I wanted to be a sniper. Mom and dad never made that one happen :(
Guy, yes i do think so…if parents are very very intentional about teaching you. Mine were not.
a sniper eh? doesnt your dad do guns? you could do it now.
I grew up with nothing, very poor. When I first started working and making money, I got a credit card. Then because I never had anything, I bought myself everything. Now, I'm older/wiser but it caused me lots of grief and quite a debt problem that I am still clawing my way out of. I think it's hard when parents don't teach children about money — those poor parents and the rich ones.
I totally agree. cause it is not a poor/rich issue….it is just one that gets ignored. and thats sad.
where's my comment? i commented and it said it had to be approved.
maybe intense debate didn't approve of what you said?
ya, i dont know…i approved it, but it never showed…but it is showing in my dashboard. dang intensedebate.
could you ask your dad if he could send me that credit card now? kthxbye